Balance X Patience

I have never been a person who liked to look back at past experiences, but I am smart enough to know that everything happens for a reason and in each experience there are several lessons to be found. Currently, I have to be a patient man in order to achieve my goals and paving the way for them. I am still learning to be a patient man for good things to come even though it is in my nature to go after what I want when all I have to do is give it some time. Although I appreciate that character trait, it sometimes guides me into a situation I even want to be there for, or around, somebody even when I am fighting my own battles. I guess that is just my nature instead of trying to portray a certain role. When I deeply care for somebody I always make sure I am emotionally secure but sometimes I even go beyond that to be there for somebody else. It shows respect when that other person says that I am not the most qualified person to be there even when there is some cheering up to do :). It is the difference between what your mind says and what your heart sees and how one decides for himself to respond.


Every person has his own battles to fight, whether they stem from work, family history, upbringing or any other path that makes one the person who he/she is today. Personally, I allow any friend to be critical of me as long as they understand that when somebody really cares they also will say things that can be harsh or even difficult to listen to. Everybody is responsible for their own actions, as a friend you can offer your opinion and be there when the chips are down. After all, it takes a long time to grow an old friend. Sincerely, I have made mistakes to but I am grateful to have a few people around that when I've made a fool of myself they do not feel I've done a permanent job.

The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing... not healing, not curing... that is a friend who cares.
Henri Nouwen

Keep Moving On and Breathe

Hey there,

Lately I have not found the words to write, but today triggered me. I saw a big man strolling around with a baby carriage and playing with his little boy making all sounds. The little guy bursted into laughther everytime his father did something to make him smile and lifted him high. Sunshine does a person good and I whondered: what does my future hold?

Lately I am asking that question multiple times, everytime to be remembered that the future is TODAY and not tomorrow. I believe people can change but that everybody has a certain set of characteristics (DNA, upbringing, you name it) which are instilled in a person. I will take myself as a example:

After taking some time to myself, I find myself having trouble letting go. This can be a person, cause or situation but when it does not sit right with me, I keep troubling myself with it. What I learned about this is that I always want the best for people and when something does not go how I see it can go then I get worried. I try to control the situation or force things to go my way. Even in my research that I am doing, situations do no always go as to my planning. What I take away from this is, is that when you start forcing something (especially creativity) you end up with the wrong results.

I believe that I have a promising future but I work for it everyday and try to enjoy my soon-to-be final days as a student. Even though this scares me a little at moments, I try to take it as it comes and enjoy every moment.

This is not a character flaw, even though it can come across, but a internal desire to bring out the best results and outcomes for everybody. This does not relate to my own personal well being but how I look at everybody around me and see where I can lend a hand or even a few words. Yes, I do screw up and can not be everywhere but a few sincere kinds words go a long way.

Each year I watch this video: Life Lessons by Madea and I am reminded about the fact to take a close look at the people around me. I can honestly say that I do not have many friends, but I have a few roots and I place my trust in them. To stay positive towards them, to share my thoughts whatever they may be and encourage them to follow their dreams.

As doing so I am reminded that I need to do the same by keep moving on and just Breathe...

This song always lends a hand and makes me smile: Sam Cooke

Setting Priorities

Today I had an interesting meeting at Seats2Meet  with one of the founders of the business concept after enjoying a good lunch! While I walked away from this conversation, I realised that I had not made really clear what it is that I wanted out of the meeting. For me personally, it was meeting a new person and telling a part of my current undertakings and my dream. However, these intentions did not really came across correctly as I wanted them to. It is okay to go into meetings with an open mind, but what I learned today again is that when you are straight forward in such meetings that that is more appreciated then lacking details.

I always try to be prepared for any question and to be myself whether it is an interview in a big company or a entrepreneur who heard it all. In my opinion, the key to always be prepared is to just be yourself. This can work out differently, for different persons so you are warned but the key is to be authentic. You only get one chance for a first impression!

My first priority is to finish my academic undertaking, after that there is lots more to explore. Therefore, what I did today:

• Found out that you have to treat each person, situation, business conversation as a single chance to make the impression you want to last;
• Be myself, also when it comes to meeting people who can help my business ideas;
• Read up on volunteer work in India, China and in Rotterdam;
• Finished my surveys for my thesis and publicizing them this week and start measurements.

Nobody said it was going to be easy creating my own job and finding my way but I have my positive attitude, oversight and insight into the material at hand and good people around me.

Sincerely,

Stefanos